“writing and reading decrease our sense of isolation. we are given a shot at dancing with, or at least clapping along with, the absurdity of life, instead of being squashed by it over and over again. it's like singing on a boat during a terrible storm at sea. you can't stop the raging storm, but singing can change the hearts and spirits of the people who are together on that ship.”
- anne lamott


Sunday, June 4, 2017

Crucial Conversations

"strong relationships, careers, organizations, and communities all draw from the same source of power--the ability to talk openly about high-stakes, emotional, controversial topics. You don't have to choose between being honest and being effective. You don't have to choose between candor and your career."

"At the core of every successful conversation lies the free flow of relevant information."

"people who are skilled at dialogue do their best to ensure that all ideas find their way into the open...as individuals are exposed to more accurate and relevant information, they make better choices."

"As the conversation unfolds...pay attention to what's happening to your objectives.  Are you starting to change your goals to save face, avoid embarrassment, be right, or punish others? ...Our motives usually change without any conscious thought on our part.
What do I really want for myself?
What do I really want for others?
What do I really want for the relationship?
How would I behave if I really wanted these results?"

"In order for this person to be able to deliver the delicate message, you must have believed he or she cared about you, or about your goals and objectives. That means you trusted his or her purposes so you were willing to listen to some pretty tough feedback."

Books to understand technology

https://www.startups.co/articles/9-books-to-boost-your-understanding-of-technology-systems?ref=quuu&utm_content=buffer7a2cc&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Dystopian novels

https://www.nypl.org/blog/2017/04/17/love-handmaids-tale-try-one-these?utm_campaign=SocialFlow&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_medium=referral

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Detroit Hustle

I really enjoyed this book, so much so that I want to write about it, which I don't usually do :)
I like books like this--the main book it reminded me of was Not All of Us Are Saints. It's a book I really identify with, a book about some people trying to  do good and right things and never really being sure if it's working out that way. Amy spends a lot of time pondering what the meaning of gentrification is, and what it means to be an insider v. an outsider, without giving any kind of easy answers. The answer is not simple--just don't move to Detroit!--because economies are in great need. And yet the ways in which haves and have nots get drawn unpurposefuly along race lines is deeply disturbing. The book made me lose my faith a bit more in trickle down economics, and at the same time made me more excited than ever to be building my own community here in Provo. Provo is in some ways very much on the brink of change--nothing at all like Detroit, but the decisions we make now are going to have serious long term repercussions, everything from public transport to schools to housing. I feel like my decision  to set down deep, deep roots in Provo is a good decision--even as I long for experiences like working for On Being, for example, for now the signs are clear that I should build here, and build deep.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Seth Godin recommended books

http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2016/12/the-last-minute-just-in-time-change-things-gift-solution-books.html